There are a lot of dating advice columnists who
will tell us that women should never approach men. They’ll tell you that it’s
the man’s job to pursue the woman and when a woman tries to pursue a man, she
comes across as desperate or loose. Add
those pieces of advice to the pile of all the other heap of crap men have been
saying that doesn’t make much sense and let’s get real.
Have you ever seen a guy so gorgeous that he makes
you melt? A quick dream flashes through
your head. You turn away and quietly walk the other way hoping he didn’t catch
saliva dripping copiously from your mouth. And you ask yourself “Why couldn’t I
just say something to him?” We all go through this at some point in our lives
but it doesn’t have to be that way!
Women are told to take initiative, go out and get
what they want, and not sit back and wait for a man to do everything, but the
one thing we should never do is approach a man? It doesn’t make much sense at
all. Being independent and not needing a guy is still the biggest attraction we
have as well as our looks but I think it’s good that we get over our
insecurities and try it a few times.
Make the first move; Guys love it when a girl is
genial and approaches them, partly because then they wouldn’t have to do all
the work. It shows him right off the bat that you’re interested and that takes
a lot of the pressure off him. So make the first move! If you don't know how to
make the first move then try to take interest in what he does such as if he
likes basketball or maybe you could ask him about things he likes and talk to
him, take interest in him and most likely he will take interest in you.
Be confident; If you appear confident to
your guy, he will think you are confident; it’s that easy. Walk up to him like
you own the ground you walk on. It will impress him knowing that you’re
comfortable in your skin. Do a lively, cheerful, and self-confident walk, flip
a wisp of hair out of your face and say hello to him. Be careful not to look
like you have this; I-am-better-than-you-bow-down-at-my-feet arrogance.
Compliment him; What guy does not like being
complimented? You could tell him he has great hair or how good he looks in the
shirt he’s wearing. This may seem cliché, but for a guy, what’s going through
his head is “Wow. Hot girl. Likes my hair. Thank you God for giving me this
hair!” Be ready for possible reactions
though- a) he'll find it offensive, b)
ignore you, c) get a little angry or d) faintly smile, slightly raise his
shoulders and he may look away- this means he definitely likes you :).
Give him the look; “The Look” is a certain look
that you have that says, “I want you to notice me.” This is your sexiest, most
mysterious look that will only last a few seconds so as to leave him breathless
and wanting more. A little warning though don't turn into a creepy stalker girl
case and end up behind bars. So for everyone’s wellbeing, a few seconds will do!
Be alone when you approach
your boy; When
you approach your guy, it’s not with a clique of your friends behind you, this more often than not, will scare him away. Your guy
will feel more at ease if it’s just one on one. This will also give you guys a
chance to get to know each other without having any interruptions.
The effort; When you’re attempting to feed someone a piece of
cake you have to let them know that you want them to have it, but you must
require that they do the effort of coming to get it. Envision yourself as the
cake, put yourself in a position in which he begins to crave you, but hold back
just enough to make him do the work needed to have you.
Have a support group; Having a support group to help
you deal with rejection is essential. You’re not going to succeed every time
you approach a man. It takes a lot of attempts to find one that works. I think
we tend to try something once, experience failure and then completely write it
off as a bad idea going forward. You’ll
try and fail, try and fail; try and win a little, eventually fail, you'll have
the support group to hold you down.
I hope you feel more empowered to approach men. Now
go on Beautiful! Get over that fear of rejection, bite the bullet and just do
it. Spark that conversation!
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