Just the other day, I was
having a light conversation with a dear friend of mine. She mentioned that the
reason why she doesn't have a partner yet is that she keeps getting the wrong
guys- they were either too crazy, too drunk, too young, too short, too needy or
something just wasn't right. It seemed like a cycle and nothing magical came
out of the little short-lived relationships she had with these guys. The big
elephant in the room was this: How come we (including my friend) keep coming across
almost the same type of people in our quest to find a suitable partner? I
firmly believe that we attract these people into our experience. Yes, the guy
or girl you are with, you attracted them into your life.
See, the concept of The Law Of
Attraction is often very controversial and sometimes very abstract for most
people. But, in simple terms this law works this way: like attracts like. Simple. I know, I know, we have always thought
polar opposites attract. Nevertheless, according to the law of nature, things,
people, and thoughts tend to attract similar things, people and thoughts. That
is why some people hang out with each other and are comfortable around each
other- their thinking (thoughts) and their emotions, interests and preferences
are agreeable and are more or less similar to each other’s.
However, attraction happens on
a deeper level, beyond your rational mind. Attraction is subconscious. What you
attract or bring to yourself is as a result of all the cumulative experiences
and reinforced thoughts and beliefs you have come to live by all your life. Now
let us apply this concept to a relationship between a guy and a girl. Every guy
or girl whom you come across, you have brought to yourself through your
thoughts. They might not be the kind of partner you are looking to be with, but
in truth, your subconscious thoughts have been thinking about this same exact
person that you utterly do not want to be with. When you start to date a drunk,
you really did attract a drunk with your thoughts. When you attract a needy
girl, you really brought this type of person in your life. It is not that you
want this type of partner; it’s just that you are focusing more on the type of
partner you do not want and focusing your thoughts less on the
kind of girl or guy you want.
I know, it may all seem very
complex but at the heart of it all is the truth that we can change the type of
partners we attract into our lives. It may not be easy because over the years
we have been conditioned to think more about what we do not want to happen. We
often lose focus of the ideal situation or the ideal partner that we want. How
about you start to pay more attention to thinking about the wonderful qualities
of the girl or guy that you want and see if you will not bring just that person
into your life.
Written by Donna Moses
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