Finding that relationship that will last forever can seem impossible if you have had your heart broken before. The truth is that many women know that it is possible to have an eternal kind of love- but how to find this love is not entirely a walk in the park. So what are the main keys to a fulfilling, successful relationship? Here are some pointers:
1. You think compatibility? No, it ain’t Half of It
First off, it is not enough that you are compatible with a guy. The problem with focusing on compatibility is that you tend to overlook other things that are very important to a lasting and fulfilling relationship. Did you know that you can be compatible with a complete jerk? Someone with whom you have great chemistry but who doesn’t treat you so special after the sex. Did you know that you could in fact be compatible with a commitment-phobe? The guy who wants to be with you now, do fun stuff, but he never wants to have the TALK. So compatibility is great and it plays a role in the success of your love life, but there is more to a fulfilling relationship than being compatible with a guy.
2. He Must Be a Relationship Guy
To have success with any guy, he must first be a relationship kind of guy. A guy who is not committed to relationships with his family, workmates, business mates, or friends is not likely to be committed to a relationship with you. He does not understand the need or importance of relationships and so he lacks the basic soft skills needed to effectively relate with others and to you too. Do not lie to yourself and think that once he is with you, he will totally learn how to be relationship oriented.
3. It Must be The Right Time
There is a season for everything. A season for love and a season for solitude. For you to find the ideal relationship partner, it must be the right time. This mostly has to do with astrology. If you find that, you are trying too hard, going out of your way to attract or find that perfect eternal love, maybe you should just stop. Just stop and allow time to have its way. Just go on with your life. When it is the perfect time, he will meet you and you will meet him. And you will have the knowing that he is the one.
4. You Must be Right For Each Other
So it might be the right time, and he may be a relationship kind of guy. But, it is important that you be right for each other for your relationship to work out. If he is the type of guy who wants to spend his energy and time climbing the ‘corporate ladder’ and you are the type of gal who wants to spend your time and energy in creative thought, in charity or in travel, things may not work out as well as you may want them to. This doesn’t mean that you must have the same desires, interests, and hobbies. It means that your interests, desires, values and hobbies should not be too contrasting that neither of you can accommodate the other.
So there you are: Get clear on the life that you want and find a guy who can accommodate this kind of life. It will be helpful if he is relationship oriented. If you do not find him straight away, it could be that the timing is not right and you just have to hang in there until its right.